Quite often, it seems, we don’t know the impact we’re having.
We decide we need to make a point or express our dissatisfaction with something. Expecting that our message may not be received, we tend to transmit at full volume.
That could be far more than is necessary, and not conducive to good relations in the medium term.
Probably better to be more measured: We can always escalate if necessary.
Talk to people on both sides of an issue and it’s striking how often the protagonists underestimate the impact they are having on each other.
Could be good to control the strength of our actions, and to test for the impact we’re having.
It might be more than is apparent.
How do you assess your own power?