…is what you’re not giving.
That’s a line from a book called “A Course in Miracles,” highlighted by Marianne Williamson.
Useful secular advice it is too… When things get difficult, it’s tempting to expect other people to make the running; to attempt reconciliation with us; to start building a bridge. Actually, if moving on is important to us, we need to go first. That’s the only reliable option.
So much, so obvious perhaps.
But it helps to think of what we are withholding; what more we could give; what being generous would mean.
And then to offer that.
Even if our effort is not reciprocated, a least we change our feelings about the situation.
And move on in ourselves.