What really is the question?

What really is the question?

Most of the time we focus on answering the question—or trying to. But is it the right question? Are we investing our energies in solving the right problem? In my own (sometimes painful) experience… We’re inclined to spend rather too much time trying to answer a...
Why relationship skills?

Why relationship skills?

Sometimes it’s worth reminding ourselves of our reasons for doing something. Specifically… Why focus on relationship skills, whether in a professional or a personal context? After all, talking about the subject can seem a bit “preachy” if...
The dog barks again

The dog barks again

The tea is poured. The seating is comfortable. The TV is OK. But the biscuit isn’t wanted. No big deal. It’s set down on the coffee table. The dog barks at the biscuit. The dog is hushed. The dog barks again, louder. The dog is given a bit of the biscuit. Soon, the...
Doing what you don’t have to do today

Doing what you don’t have to do today

Doing what you have to do today is relatively easy. You have to do it after all. Doing what you don’t have to do today is harder. There’s no urgency: not today, not tomorrow, not even the next day. It’s easy to put it off, especially if the task is a...